A TRUE FRIEND/ When You Start A Relationship best
A TRUE FRIEND/ When you start a relationship ↪️ There was a young man whose father had only him and they loved each other very much. His father always taught him by example. The young man was successful and complaining in his work. While he was busy, he told his father that he wanted to marry her. His father was very happy.
The young man told her that he had a friend whom he loved very much and that he should marry her after a certain time. His concern, however, was one thing. It is how he finishes his wedding preparations because he does not have time. He confessed his concerns to his wise father.
↪️ His father told him that he would make everything easy for him and that he would always be with him. The young man was very happy. Finally, on his wedding day, he confessed to his father that he had friends that he did not want to miss and that he loved very much. He gave them the names and phone numbers of fifty people so that his father could call them.
↪️ All the preparations were done and his wedding day arrived. He continued to wait for friends with whom he had a long history, who had eaten and drunk with him, who had traveled long distances with him and who had paid a lot of price for each other, who had made many promises to each other. But only thirteen out of fifty people were present in the large hall prepared for the wedding.
The young man went to his father and said, “Father, have you called my friends for me?” His father said, “Yes, my son, I have called you. But only eighteen people came. How can my friends be invited and miss my wedding?”
↪️His father said, “I called fifty people for you. I didn’t call them because there was a wedding, but because he was in serious trouble. He told me he had no one to call but you called out.
↪️ So your true friends are all here because these are the ones who came to reach out to you in your troubles. Others you call have a wedding, food and drink. So come and eat and drink together and have fun and call them and they will come!” he replied!
What do you learn from this? write..
Long distance relationships are hard and actually tough. Not everyone really understands that, there’s a fear of getting hurt and being left alone in memory. Whether you are remembered or remembered as a wound to others, there are many reasons to fight. There are many reasons to be hurt, upset, regretful and depressed.
Two efforts to apply, two patiences, deep loyalty and tireless efforts are the remedies that make the love healthy.
Regardless of the distance, the effort and sincerity of these lovers; loyalty and patience give reason to love each other harder, than “ordinary” lovers. No one wants to lose a loved one, no one is afraid of falling alone in the pain of memory.
Ordinary lovers can give up efforts and relationships whenever they want, and neither party may care. In other words, there was no fatigue, no effort and no pain in the middle of rejection, so they could start new relationships with others without fear!
↪️When you start a relationship; you give in emotionally, physically, to thinking for yourself. How would that person feel if I did? Is there no harm to the goodness and honesty of the person? Do I respect my partner? Because you when you start this relationship, this part isn’t just you anymore and it’s not a simple matter, it’s two perspectives. You can’t be like you don’t care.
You are free to love anyone but you have to take your own responsibility for what your actions do to that person.
Commitment is something we need to be willing to have with another person. If you don’t, don’t get into relationship nepotism. Responsibility and effort as well as respect are always a strong foundation for a healthy relationship!” We write to those in the world of love.
↪️ After this, we all; we need someone who remembers us everywhere to care about us, not to inspire us to say it’s our business in an emergency. I was afraid of being alone. I want to feel like someone needs me more than anyone else. I want to feel like I have someone who chooses me over everyone else and stays with me all the time and I want to feel uncomplainingly loved.
And I was afraid to look at the people who left me. But now that I saw my worth, I realized that these people who left me and made me feel worthless were not worthy of someone like me. I am above what they think I am, and no one is praised in a place where he does not pay his price. I don’t want people who can’t see my worth, and I won’t ask the fugitive in my life anymore for my worth when he’s relieved. Enough for someone who hasn’t betrayed my original values. Even if he rejects me, I am not afraid of being alone.
For the fighters who have persevered, I am the preferred place, a loyal and peaceful part! Those who truly care about me always find ways to stay in my life, and I am praised without question wherever I seem! Those who truly love me fight for this place in my heart! I don’t want to chase people away, that’s what I’ve learned and I don’t want anyone to feel like they’re being pushed around and care about me I’d rather be alone than inspire them to be responsible for me!”
HIRIYYAA DHUGAA
↪️ Dargaggeessa abbaan isaa isa qofa qabuu fi baay’ee wal jaallatan tokkotu ture. Abbaan isaa yeroo hundumaa fakkeenyaan waa isa barsiisa ture. Dargaggeesichis hojii isaatti nama milka’aa fi ko’ommataa ture. Osoma hojiin isa mudduu bar tokko akka fuudhuu barbaadu abbaa isaatti himate. Abbaan isaas baay’ee gammade.
Dargaggeessichis michuu baay’ee jaallatu akka qabuu fi yeroo murtaa’een boodas haadha manaa isaa godhachuu akka qabu itti himate. Yaaddoon isaa garuu waan tokko ture. Innis, yeroo waan hin qabneef akkamiin akka qophii cidha isaa sana xumurratuu dha. Yaaddoo isaas abbaa isaa isa ogeessatti himate.
↪️ Abbaan isaas waan hundumaa salphaatti akka isaaf xumuruu fi yeroo hundumaa akka isaa wajjin jiru itti hime. Dargaggeessichis baay’ee gammade. Dhuma irrattis guyyaa cidha isaatii sana hiriyyoota isaa akka isaan irraa hafan hin barbaannee fi baay’ee jaallatu akka qabu abbaa isaatti himate. Akka abbaan isaa isaan waamuufis maqaa fi lakkoofsa bilbilaa isaanii toora galchee kan namoota shantamaa itti kenne.
↪️ Qopheen hundumtuu dhumee guyyaan cidha isaas ga’e. Hiriyyoota isaa waliin seenaa dheeraa qaban, wajjin nyaatanii wajjin dhugan, karaa dheeraa waliin deemanii fi gatii baay’ee waliif baasaa turan, warra waadaa baay’ee waliif seenuun irbuu qaban eeguun ittuma fufe. Namni galma guddaa cidhaaf qophaa’e keessatti argame garuu namoota shantama keessaa kudha saddet qofa turan.
Dargaggeessichis abbaa isaa bira deemee, “Abbaa koo hiriyyoota koo naaf waamteetta? jedheen. Abbaan isaas, “Eeyyeen ilma koo siif waameera” jedheen. Gurbaanis, “Ani akka ati isaan waamtuuf maqaa fi bilbila hiriyyoota koo shantamaan sitti kenne. Kan dhufe garuu nama kudha saddeet qofa. Akkamitti hiriyyoonni koo waamamanii cidha koo irraa hafuu?” jedheen.
↪️Abbaan isaas, “Ani nama shantaman siif waame. Kanan isaan waame garuu cidhatu jira jedhee osoo hin taane, rakkoo hamaa keessa seenee jira. Isiniin ala nama waammatu akka hin qabne natti himate. Rakkoo hamaa isa mudate kana keessatti immoo gargaarsa keessan barbaadaa qaqabadhaa jedheetan waamee.
↪️ Kanaaf hiriyyoonni kee warri dhugaan warra rakkina kee keessatti si qaqabachuu dhufe kanadha waan ta’eef hundumti isaanii as jiru. Warra kaan immoo ati bilbiliifii cidhan qaba, nyaataa fi dhugaatiin qopheessee jira. Kanaaf kottaa waliin nyaannee dhugnee gammannaa jedhiiti waami ni dhufuu!” jedhee deebiseef!
Kana irraa maal hubattaan? bareessaa..
Hariiroon fageenya dheeraa ulfaataadha dhugumatti cimaadha. Namni hundi dhugumaan waan sana hin hubatu, sodaa miidhamuu fi yaadannoo keessatti kophaa hafuutu jira. Namoota birootiif madaa taatee yaadatamuu yookiin yaadachuutu si mudata, wal-loluuf sababoota hedduutu jira. Miidhamuuf, jeeqamuuf, gaabbuuf akkasumas dhiphachuuf sababa hedduutu jira.
Hojii irra oolchuuf carraaqqii lama, obsa lama, amanamummaa gadi fagoo fi nuffii malee carraaqqiin qoricha jaalala sana fayyaaleessa godhudha.
Fageenyi isaa haa ta’u malee, carraaqqiif amanamummaan jaalalleewwan kanneenii; jaalalleewwan “idilee” caalaa, cimanii akka wal-jaalataniif amanamummaa fi obsi sababa kenna. Namni kamuu nama jaalattu dhabuu hin barbaadu, dhukkubbii yaadannoo keessatti kophaa kufuu hin sodaata.
Jaalalleewwan idilee yeroo barbaadanitti carraaqqii fi hariiroo dhiisuu danda’u, qaamni kamuu kanaaf dhimmamuu dhiisuus danda’a. Akkas jechuun dadhaabbiin, carraaqqii fi dhukkubbiin ganamuu gidduu hin turree waan ta’eef, sodaa malee namoota biraa waliin hariiroo haaraa jalqabu danda’u!
↪️Walitti dhufeenya yeroo jalqabdu; miiraan, qaamaan, ofii kee yaaduutti of kennita. Yoon ani kana godhe nama sanatti maaltu itti dhagahama? Gaarummaa fi amanamummaa nama sanaa miidhaa hin jiru? Ani hiriyaa koo kabajan jiraa? Sababni isaas ati yeroo hariiroo kana jalqabdu, kutaan kun kana booda si qofa waan hin taaneef dhimma salpha miti, ilaacha lama dha. Akka waan dhimma hin qabnee ta’uu hin dandeessu.
Ati nama kamuu jaalachuuf bilisa garuu waan gochi kee nama sana jiilchuuf itti gaafatamummaa mataa keetii fudhachuu qabda. Kutannoon wanta nuti nama biraa waliin qabaachuuf fedhii qabaachuu qabnudha. Yoo hin taane firummaa hariiroo keessa hin seenin. Itti gaafatamummaa fi carraaqqiin akkasumaas kabajuun yeroo hunda hariiroo fayyaalessa gochuuf bu’uura cimaadha!” Warra addunyaa jaalalaaf barreessina.
↪️ Kana booda hundi keenya; nama guyyaa muddamaa keessatti dhimma kooti jedhee kakaasuu keenya malee, waa’ee keenyaaf dhimammuuf iddoo hundatti nu yaadatu barbaanna.
Kophaa koo ta’uu nan sodaadha ture. Akka namni tokko nama hunda caalaatti na barbaadu akka natti dhagahamuun barbaada. Kan nama hundarra na filatee yeroo hunda na bira turu akkan qabutti akka natti dhagahamu fi jaalatamummaan komii hin qabne akka natti dhaga’amuun nan barbaada.
Akkasumas namoota na dhiisan ilaaluun sodaadhan ture. Amma garuu gatii koo waanan argeef, namoonni na dhiisanii akkan gatii hin qabne na godhan kun nama akka koof akka hin mallen hubadhe. Ani isa isaan na yaadanii oliidha namni iddoo gatii isaa hin baafneetti hin jajamu. Namoota gatii koo arguu hin dandeenye hin barbaadu, kana booda nama jireenya koo keessatti baqate yeroo inni boqonnaa argate gatii koo hin gaaffu. Nama gatii koo jalqabaa hin ganneef gahaadha. Yoo na gannees kan booda kophaa koo ta’uu hin sodaadhu.
Qabsaa’ota warra cichomeef ani iddoo filtamaadha kutaa amanammaa fi nagaadha! Warri dhugaan naaf yaadan yeroo hunda karaa ittiin jireenya koo keessa turan barbaadu, bakka na fakkaatutti gaaffii maleen jajama! Warri dhugaan na jaalatan Onnee koo keessatti bakka kana qabaachuuf wal-lolu! Ani namoota ari’uu hin barbaadu, kanuman baradhedha akka namni waa’ee kootiif akka waan dhiibamaa jiruutti itti dhaga’amu fi dhimamuu hin barbaadu waa’ee kootiif akka isaan itti gaafatamummaa qaban isaan kakaasuu irra kophaa koo ta’uun barbaada!”
